Me and my fiance decided to tell the truth.....?

ok.... long story short..... me and my kids mother have been separated for a while until about a mth ago.. my feelings for her are un real.. we have 3 kids together and i love her with all my heart. we been together for almost 8 yrs.. i proposed to her a few weeks back and she said yes... OK.... last nite we decided to tell the truth about what we did while we were separated because we both felt we had to do this to move forward in our lives. she did things and i did things. i cant be a hypocrit but when i tell u it sucked to her what she told me...IT SUCKED.. and i know she felt the same way.. so its been bothering me all day and we love each other so i know we will get through it. OK so heres my problem..... we separated completely and i decided to move to texas while shes in louisiana. the things she told me involved some co workers at her job.. we both love each other and we are gonna get married soon, but for me to move forward, i jus cant handle her working at that job with the guy she was with. am i wrong to ask her to quit her job?? shes moving here to texas with me anyway. and i dont think i can do this if she doesnt come to texas soon. i dont want her around this guy and he works with her. she cut off all ties with him. please help with answers. because to me, in order for us to start over and move forward we need to put that behind us and the city she lives in is nothing but bad memories for both of us.. so is it ok to pressure her to come to texas now??? answers please. i just cant have her there with all those bad memories